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Adam’s story

The heart-breaking reality of losing both parents

13th November 2019

We’d love to introduce you to Adam – the brave man behind the devastating truth of losing both your parents. Now, Adam would like to tell you a little bit more, hoping that one day no life will be cut short by cancer.

I wanted to take this opportunity to tell you my story – from one person touched by cancer, to another. 

It all started 14 years ago when I was in my final year of university. We did all the things Dads and sons do together. We shared a love of the great outdoors, always climbing mountains or bagging munros.

But in November 2006 we lost him to pancreatic cancer. I was only 22, Dad – just 54. Suddenly, he was gone. I still want to pick up the phone to talk to him on good days and bad.

They say 1 in 2 people get cancer, for me it was two

When Dad died, Mum became two parents in one. At such a difficult time for her, she put her focus into my sister, brother and I  – but never forgot the promises she made to Dad. She went on all the adventures they had planned, lived life to the full. She really was the glue that held us together.

Losing Dad was heart-breaking, but having Mum there kept everyone going – and everyone together. So, when Mum told us she had bowel cancer, our worlds fell apart. Again.

Not only did I lose my parents, I lost my best mates too

Mum passed away in 2015 at our family home. She too missed so many special moments with her family; weddings, grandchildren, and every special Christmas day. Mum and Dad weren’t only my parents, they were my best mates too. I would go to the ends of the earth to have them here, by my side just one last time.

Now I have my own little girl, Skye. She’s only two. I look at her and can’t help but wonder – will I miss her grow up, too? I want to see her graduate, fall in love, see the world. All the things my parents missed.

I want to be by her side long enough, to see her grow into the woman I know she can become. For Mum. For Dad. For Skye.

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But wishes aren’t enough to conquer cancer and save the lives of the people you love. That’s why I’m supporting Worldwide Cancer Research to find and fund the bold ideas that kickstart cancer cures. Because when it comes to life-saving cancer research, the first step is the most important.

By donating to Worldwide Cancer Research, you’re giving researchers more time in the lab so that our families can have more time together. Hours enjoying retail therapy not chemotherapy, singing to the radio not dreading radiotherapy – laughing round the Christmas table, not lying on the treatment table. For me, that’s money well spent.

Please support Worldwide Cancer Research, backing bold ideas to build brighter futures for families like yours and families like mine.

Thank you for listening to my story.

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Adam's life was turned upside down by cancer. Read his poem:

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